Is that you?

Over this weekend I had a two conversations that made me realize something in me absolutely has changed. I spoke to two of my exes, one has known me for about nine years and the other for eight. The one that I have known for nine years sent me his number and I gave him a call. At first he did not even realize who I was and I was a little offended, I asked him "did you forget what my voice sounds like" and he was very honest and actually surprised when he said "no girl, you just do not sound like how you used to." We kept talking, but he was still taken off by how I sounded and said "I am going to put my mama on the phone to see if she can recognize your voice" and his mother had no idea who I was either. I just laughed it off and we continued talking. Later on that same day another ex wanted to talk to me and so I said "send me your number and I will give you a call." Now he and I have talked a couple of times since I moved, so he did not notice a change in my voice, but he did in my conversation. He asked me "why are you so quite, you used to have so much to say" and I just told him that I try to listen more than I speak now.

Both of these conversations helped me to realize something, when we change how we deal with people, how we deal with ourselves, and start a mission to become better people we do not have to make a big deal about it. We really do not have to announce to the world that we are changing or trying to live a different way, people will see it for themselves. I have always said if you are doing major things there is no reason to rub it in people's face and announce it to the world, because we will notice. The most simple thing about life is that our actions always speak louder than our words. We can say anything and fake it, but at the end of the day it is what we actually do that matters. If I keep telling someone I love you, but I always hurt their feelings, what kind of love is that? If I keep telling people I am such a good person and doing great things, but at the end of the day they see me strung out on drugs, my actions will speak for me.

Today the message to you is an easy one. When you make a choice to live differently, rather it is for the better or for the worse, people will notice. People notice subtle changes to huge ones, but it is very hard to hide the difference. Not everyone will agree with your changes (even the good ones), but if you are serious about making a change in your way of living, stay with it. I have relapse moments, where I miss the negative influences (I really do not know why, but it happens) and I may fall off the wagon, but as long as we are living we can make a change. If at first we do not succeed try and try again. Along our journey though get accustomed to people from your past asking "is that you?" because the changes will always speak for themselves.